As we honor Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR) on November 20, we take a moment to reflect on the challenges trans and nonbinary people face and recommit to building a more supportive and affirming world. For parents and caregivers, raising a trans or nonbinary child can feel like uncharted territory, but you’re not alone. With love, understanding, and the right resources, you can create a safe and nurturing environment where your child can thrive.

At Out Youth, we’ve seen the difference family support can make. We’re here to help you navigate this journey with your child, offering resources, community, and guidance every step of the way.

Why Support Makes a Difference

Trans and nonbinary youth often experience higher rates of bullying, discrimination, and mental health struggles compared to their peers. According to The Trevor Project, more than half of trans and nonbinary young people considered suicide in the past year. But there’s hope: research shows that just one affirming adult in a child’s life drastically lowers those risks.

You have the power to be that life-changing support for your child. You can create a home where they feel safe, valued, and free to be themselves.

Building a Supportive Home Environment

Start with Listening and Learning
If your child has shared their identity with you, it’s a sign of trust. Listening without judgment shows them that you’re a safe person to turn to. Be open to change and take time to learn about gender diversity and what being trans or nonbinary means. At Out Youth, we offer resources to help families deepen their understanding, such as our weekly support group for parents and caregivers of transgender, nonbinary, and questioning youth.
Affirm Your Child’s Identity
Simple acts like using your child’s name and pronouns and advocating for others to do the same can have an enormous impact on their well-being. Celebrate their choices in how they express themselves—whether it’s through clothing, hairstyles, or hobbies. Your support tells them that they’re loved exactly as they are. When the world feels out to get them, it means everything for your child to know you’re always on their team.
Seek Out Support
Parenting can be tough, especially when navigating something unfamiliar. Connecting with other families of trans and nonbinary youth can make a world of difference. Along with free counseling for LGBTQIA+ youth, Out Youth offers support groups and resources where you can find community, advice, and encouragement.

Helping Schools Become Safe Spaces

Advocate for Inclusive Policies
Schools should be places where every child feels safe. Talk to your child’s school about creating inclusive policies such as having teachers use the correct name and pronouns, providing gender-neutral facilities, and addressing bullying. If you need help getting started, Out Youth can provide tools and resources to guide these conversations.
Encourage Representation
Ask about incorporating LGBTQIA+ topics into the curriculum. Representation helps all students understand and respect one another. Supporting student-led groups like Gender and Sexuality Alliances (GSAs) can also create a more inclusive environment.
Partner with Educators
Work with your child’s teachers and school counselors to ensure their needs are met. Sharing resources, like those available through Out Youth, can help schools become better allies to trans and nonbinary students.

Being an Ally in Your Community

Start Conversations
Use your voice to educate others about the challenges trans and nonbinary youth face. Sharing your journey as a supportive parent can inspire others to become allies and show other families of trans youth that they are not alone.
Show Up
Attend community events like TDOR or Pride celebrations to show your support. Organizations like Out Youth host events where you can connect with other families and allies.
Celebrate Your Child
Being trans or nonbinary is just one beautiful part of who your child is. Celebrate their resilience, their creativity, their intelligence, and everything else that makes them unique.

Out Youth: Here to Support Your Family

At Out Youth, we’re here for families just like yours. Whether you need resources, a listening ear, or a community that understands, our programs are designed to support LGBTQIA+ youth and their families. From support groups and counseling to educational workshops, we’re committed to helping you create an affirming environment for your child. If you don’t know where to get started, you can always just reach out.

A Brighter Future

This Transgender Day of Remembrance, let’s honor the lives we’ve lost by committing to the young people who are here today. With love, advocacy, and support, we can create a safer world for our children—one where they are free to live as their truest selves.

You’re not in this alone, and Out Youth is here to walk with your family every step of the way.